20070531

time: 0325
weather: dunno. im in my room
mood: ok
listening to: yui - goodbye days

ok. after such a bloody long time, i have retrieved my password, which means that im back to blogging. life hasnt been very up to snuff lately. shall not go into the details. anyway. i have found something interesting i would like to share with u guys

Discover the 90/10 Principle. It will change your life (at least the way you react to situations atwork and at home...). What is this principle? 10% of life is made up of what happens to you. 90% oflife is decided by how you react. What does this mean? We really have no control over 10% of whathappens to us. We cannot stop the car from breaking down. The plane be late arriving, which throws ourwhole schedule off.

A driver may cut us off in traffic. We have no control over this 10%. The other 90% is different.You determine the other 90%. How? By your reaction. You cannot control a red light., but you can controlyour reaction. Don't let people fool you; YOU can control how you react.

Let's use an example. You are eating breakfast with your family. Your daughter knocks over a cup of coffeeonto your business shirt. You have no control over what just happened. What happens next will be determined howyou react. You curse. You harshly scold your daughter for knocking the cup over. She breaks down in tears.After scolding her, you turn to your spouse and criticize her for placing the cup too close to the edge of thetable. A short verbal battle follows. You storm upstairs and change your shirt. Back downstairs, you find yourdaughter has been too busy crying to finish breakfast and get ready for school. She misses the bus.

Your spouse must leave immediately for work. You rush to the car and drive your daughter to school.Because you are late, you drive 40 miles an hour in a 30 mph speed limit. After a 15-minute delay and throwing $60 (traffic fine) away, you arrive at school. Your daughter runs into the building without saying goodbye. After arriving at the office 20 minutes late, you find you forgot your briefcase. Your day has started terrible. As it continues, it seems to get worse and worse. You look forward to coming home, When you arrive home, you find a small wedge in your relationship with your spouse and daughter. Why? Because of how you reacted in themorning. Why did you have a bad day?

A) Did the coffee cause it?
B) Did your daughter cause it?
C) Did the policeman cause it?
D) Did you cause it?

The answer is D. You had no control over what happened with the coffee. How you reacted in those 5 seconds is what caused your bad day.

Here is what could have and should have happened.Coffee splashes over you. Your daughter is about to cry.You gently say, "It's ok honey, you just need to be morecareful next time". Grabbing a towel you rush upstairs.After grabbing a new shirt and your briefcase, you comeback down in time to look through the window and seeyour child getting on the bus. She turns and waves.You and your spouse kiss before you go to work. Youarrive 5 minutes early and cheerfully greet the staff.Your boss comments on how good the day you are having.

Notice the difference? Two different scenarios. Both started the same. Both ended different. Why? Because of how you REACTED. You really do not have any controlover 10% of what happens. The other 90% was determined byyour reaction. Here are some ways to apply the 90/10 principle.

If someone says something negative about you, don't be a sponge. Let the attack roll off like water on glass. Youdon't have to let the negative comment affect you! Reactproperly and it will not ruin your day. A wrong reactioncould result in losing a friend, being fired, gettingstressed out etc.

How do you react if someone cuts you off in traffic? Do you lose your temper? Pound on the steering wheel? (A friend of mine had the steering wheel fall off) Do you curse? Does your blood pressure skyrocket? Do you try and bump them? WHO CARES if you arrive ten seconds later at work? Why let the other motorists ruin your driving? Much more your day?

Remember the 90/10 principle, and do not worry aboutit. You are told you lost your job. Why lose sleep and get irritated? It will work out. Use your worrying; energy and time into finding another job.The plane is late; it is going to mangle your schedule for the day. Why take out your frustration on the flight attendant? She has no control over what is going on. Use your time to study, get to know the other passenger. Why get stressed out? It will just make things worse.

Now you know the 90-10 principle. Apply it and youwill be amazed at the results. You will lose nothing if you try it. The 90-10 principle is incredible.Very few know and apply this principle. The result? Millions of people are suffering from undeserved stress, heart attack, trials, problems and heartache. There neverseem to be a success in life. Bad days follow bad days.Terrible things seem to be constantly happening. There is constant stress, lack of joy, and broken relationships.

Worry consumes time. Anger breaks friendships and lifeseems dreary and is not enjoyed to the fullest. Friends are lost. Life is a bore and often seemscruel. Does this describe you? If so, do not bediscouraged. You can be different! Understand and apply the 90/10 principle. It will change your life!

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